This blog is actually dedicated to all the me’s out there. All of the me’s that I am. And all of the me’s that you are.
There is marriage advice, or maybe a marriage warning, that the person we marry will actually be 5, 10, 15 different people in the marriage. We change as humans. We grow; we mature. Sometimes we devolve. But we definitely change. It’s just whether we do it consciously or not. And regardless of that it’s usually best for everyone involved to be prepared for it.
That’s how the Be Room got started. I wanted to be better prepared for my future relationships and for my future life by knowing myself better. Who the %@*# am I? Why am I cranky? Why am I crying? What am I doing “here”?
That’s when I first met Janet. She was the one swinging sharp objects around. Recklessly. And people were getting hurt. Or at least needing to protect themselves from her. From me. She is my shadow side. The anger, despair, fear, rage, shaming and shameful. She comes out wreaking havoc when I am unaware. When I’ve closed my eyes and ears and heart to a deeper Truth. Janet is a force to be reckoned with. A force I think SHOULD be reckoned with.
She doesn’t surface as often when I do my Be Rooms.
Jane was born out of my deepening relationship with Janet. She is the Superman to my usual dorky Clark Kent-ness. Jane wears really cool ninja style martial arts pants with a super sexy navel revealing shirt. She carries a sword and a styley goblet of wine. She is the one of service. The kind, compassionate, kick-ass defender of Right and Good. She’s also known as The Villager.
Discovering who we are and who we want to be is such a rich intention for me. My given name, Elizabeth, comes with a lot of nicknames and I have most usually welcomed people calling me special pet names. (Except Beth. I’m not a Beth. I didn’t like my 8th grade English teacher calling me Beth.) I know I have different personas at different times and I’m amused by naming them. I also know I have changed as a human. I like to think mostly for the better. I try to be as purposeful about it as possible these days. I happen to believe that the more in depth we are conscious of ourselves, of our me’s, the deeper we can dive into the meaning of being human. And the deeper we can relate to everything. It provides a buffer of understanding that quiets our personal insanity for bits of time. 'Oh, that’s the little girl who used to be so anxious and eager to please her dad.' 'Oh, that’s the Proud Mama Bear trying to protect her cub.' 'Oh, oops, Janet got out again. Sorry, I haven’t been engaging in healthy self-care.' It gives me a chance to explain myself even if it’s just to myself. And it gives me a chance to forgive myself and make amends to both myself and others. It helps me navigate a path of conscious evolving, one in which I get to choose the me I am becoming.
The Be Project’s tag line, ‘Discovering who you are and who you want to be’ is about celebrating the ‘me’. It’s meant to empower you to own all of the parts of yourself, to honor who you have been and to CHOOSE how you want to show up in the world, how you want to be ‘me’.